Valentino Kohen – Invisible Game

Students who have attended my programs are very familiar with this. They’ve been watching videos for years, but have never had the courage to go out and actually talk to girls!

Valentino Kohen – Invisible Game

From “Hello” To “Never Leave Me” – Invisible Game Decoded (Full manifesto)

Valentino Kohen Full Manifesto

(Note: This isn’t an “open to close” manifesto. It’s a detailed description of how to meet a girl and then make her fall in love with you)

Do you find yourself addicted to endless videos? “success with women” Without taking any action?

Students who have attended my programs are very familiar with this. They’ve been watching videos for years, but have never had the courage to go out and actually talk to girls!

If you fall into the “knowledge trap” of trying to learn it all before you go out and actually do it, you’re just wasting time.

Even worse, a lot of guys watch so many different videos, from various teachers, that they end up with a catalog of conflicting ideas which make it REALLY hard for them to put what they’ve learned into practice!

Simple steps are required to achieve success with women. You need to learn a few principles, then take lots of action to improve your skills.

I’ve condensed all of my knowledge into ONE video, teaching you how to get the girl you’ve always wanted. Here is my entire manifesto.

You can become a master at this, stop wasting your time and get better at it. Pick one teacher and learn from him. Then, take massive action. I don’t mind if you learn from me or someone else. I want you to have the girls you desire in your life.

Invisible Game Decoded

What is it? Invisible Game?

“Invisible Game” Substitution is the best way to attract women.-Naturally irresistible communications Learn more and apply to my Invisible Game principles correctly and girls will be unaware that you’re trying to “pick them up.” You’ll Appear to be a cool, funny guy, who is self amused and free from any outcome. Actually, you won’t appear To be that guy, YOU WILL BE THAT MAN

Invisible Game So inconspicuously, so “non-playerish” You can use these principles to get women anywhere you want! These principles can be used at the beach, the gym and in bookstores as well as out at nightclubs or your workplace.

You’re not going to learn a bunch of lines and techniques, but instead the core behaviors and beliefs that attract women on a biological level. You’ll develop an understanding of social dynamics which allows you to get any girl, in any situation.

These are the 2 main aspects that contribute to your success with women

1. From where do your actions come from? (Psychology)
   • Close to 80% of your interactions with women are influenced by your psychology
2. Execution
   • I.e. You are doing what you really want.
   • This section discusses the methods and physical aspects that contribute to women’s success.

Psychology

Your ability to connect with women successfully is dependent on your psychology. This is where you will be able to make the most of your ability. It’s you stopping yourself more than any other factor!

Reality is illusion. The majority of the times, what you expect to happen does not actually occur.

Once you start pushing your comfort zone and getting in situations that you’ve never been in before, you’ll learn that what you thought was going to happen, usually isn’t the case.

“How do I push myself into these new situations and expand my comfort zone?”

To be able to move forward in new situations, you must be able to accept the worst possible outcome. When you’ve accepted the worst fate possible for you, you’ll have no fear undergoing your new experiences. What’s the worst thing that can happen when talking to girl, the thing that every guy fears? That they’ll ignore you. Once you’ve accepted that this fate is possible, that you might get embarrassed, then talking to girls in any social environment becomes EASY!

When you jump into situations that make you nervous or scared (because you expect to fail) and then find out that it’s not as bad as you thought, you shift your perceived reality closer to Actual REALITY.

How To Shift You’re Perceived Reality Closer To Reality

There are two powerful ways to cultivate a perception that is as close the actual thing. “real” As real as possible. This is because what you think will happen or believe to be true is in harmony with the Universe.

1. Be around people who are successful at that particular area of your life
   • It is possible to infer from someone’s success in a specific area of life that they are knowledgeable about the subject. “rules” It is very possible to relate to this subject. E.g. A woman who attracts women is successful because of his beliefs. “success with women” Match the reality.
   • Get around these people and you’ll naturally adopt their beliefs!
2. Get out of your comfort zone and try new things.
   • What is it about the idea of a group or girls eating dinner together that makes you anxious? If you’ve never done it before, you’re probably a bit apprehensive about the chances of success. You probably believe it will fail. This, however, is an example of your perceived reality being  different to the actual reality and disadvantageous to your results. I’ve successfully approached a significant number of girls having dinner, that in my reality there is a very high possibility for success and I wouldn’t even hesitate to approach in this situation!
   • Put yourself into situations that you believe wouldn’t work to see what REALLY works.

Mindset

It is important to realize that everyone has the same value. When you meet new people it’s the way you act that conveys your value to them. I don’t do things to raise You are my value. Hold It’s better than everyone else!

Reacting to others is a way to lose your value. This shows that you are more in tune with the reality of another person than you are. Once you start reacting, you’re fluctuating in your value, and if you’re talking to someone else who’s value isn’t changing you’ll fall below him/her in a social sense.

Remain true to your values and don’t react to anything other people say or do to you. This means that when a girl you’re talking to say’s “You’re ugly, go away” it doesn’t change you’re emotional state (make you sad).

Becoming Less Reactive

“How do I become less reactive?”

With repetition and massive exposure you’ll naturally become less reactive (this means: Talk to lots of girls!) The more reference experiences you get the less you’ll be shocked by what girls say and the more appropriate answers you’ll have available from past experiences.

“Is there any other way I can become less reactive without talking to girls?”

Yes, meditation.

Meditation can help you train on two levels. The first level is the control of your attention and emotions. You can improve your ability control your attention by practicing meditation regularly. You will be able to control your emotions and not react immediately when a girl gives a congruence exam. Instead, you should be able maintain your composure while responding in a manner that will pass the test.

Meditation also promotes acceptance and presence. When you accept the present moment and don’t consider the future you avoid fear (either anticipation of fear, or fear of losing a chance). What I mean is this; when you create future projections based on what’s happening you either think it will fail and become scared in anticipation of the failure or you think it could go really well, but then get fearful of stuffing up the interaction. When you accept the moment and set aside an outcome dependence then it’s easy to disconnect your emotions from the situation.

Non-reactive behavior requires acceptance of the present moment and freedom from future outcomes. Meditation can help you train this ability.

What are congruence tests?

Sometimes also referred to as “shit tests”, congruence tests are statements Oder questions made by girls to provoke a reaction in the guy she’s talking (e.g. “You’re weird, go away.” or “Is that your best pick up line?”). This is a behavior that’s instinctual and she generally isn’t even self-Be aware of this. When a girl congruence tests you it’s a good thing. It implies that she sees you as a potential partner, but needs to know for sure that the personality you’re projecting is real and not a facade.

Mommy’s boys who seek validation from the girl and convey ZERO sexual intent towards girls will not get congruence tested because the girl doesn’t see them as a potential mate.

You have more chances to answer the girl’s questions if you ask her more. This allows the girl to get to know you better and can build a relationship quickly. It’s important for a girl to experience your personality because she can make a judgment of how you’ll act in future situations. She should feel safe in solitude with you.

“What’s the right way to respond to congruence tests?”

When a girl throws a Shit test at you, you’ll naturally respond in a way that keeps you most comfortable. Your brain will tell you. “hey, this is about to get awkward. What’s the best way to avoid awkwardness? Run away.” You do the same. Or, you may react in a manner that indicates that your state is altered. E.g. You get defensive or sad like your ego’s just been deflated.

It is important to pass a congruence exam.

1. Consider what the girl said.
2. Accept it
3. React with laughter and proactive action

The final step is critical. When you respond using self amusement (saying what’s funny to you), you maintain your emotional state, or even boost it! This is the best way to pass congruence tests and get the girl. It displays she isn’t your number one priority and that you don’t care if she goes home with you at the end of the night or not!

How to Make Yourself Happy

To entertain yourself, self amusement is to have fun. When you go out with friends, this should be your first priority. When you’re just having fun, pumping yourself up, it doesn’t matter if she likes it or not. She can choose to participate or not.

All you have to do is ask yourself this question…

“What could I say or do right now that would make me laugh?”

Then, do it!

Don’t filter yourself, just say whatever comes to your mind later. You’re familiar with the expression “It’s better to ask for forgiveness than permission”. Well it’s exactly the same when talking to girls, except instead of asking for forgiveness, you make whatever you’ve just said relatable to the girl (e.g. Explain why you said it to her so that she understands that you aren’t just saying random crap. She has to understand where you’re coming from, otherwise it won’t make sense.

Focus

“It’s not going to work. 50 other guys have probably already approached her, I’ve got no chance.”

These thoughts are great. They’re dumb, but there good. Because whenever you’re second guessing yourself it means that every other guy in the club is thinking the exact same thing! I get excited whenever I start to feel uncomfortable because it’s at this point that most other guys would quit. To achieve greatness, you must be willing to let go of your comfort zone for a while.

This is a huge advantage because you now know how to push through discomfort. You’ll achieve 100x more than anyone else when you’re prepared to face your fears and get a little bit uncomfortable _x0001F609_

From the beginning, I knew that talking to girls was the only way to get better at this. It doesn’t matter how you feel, just do it. Over time you’ll become desensitized to feeling uncomfortable and talking to girls will just be a natural thing you do. I actually feel weird when I’m NOT talking to girls!

How to lessen your fear 100% by focusing on the RIGHT thoughts…

I’ve said it before, but maybe you’ve forgotten. You must have fun. Have fun! Think of these things: “I’ve got no chance” should never even enter your head because they imply you’re thinking about getting the girl instead of amusing yourself!

Focus your attention by asking the right questions. I ask myself these questions every day. “what’s funny about this situation.”

Good questions lead to good answers.

In the long run you need to focus on the progress you’re making and be happy about it. Learn from your mistakes and enjoy your successes.

Rejection & How To Make It Impossible

Many guys fear rejection. If a girl falls in love, “rejects” a guy it conveys that he isn’t enough. It reduces his value, and people fear it. Tony Robbins claims that “the biggest fear people have, is the fear of not being enough.”

We all crave meaning and it can be difficult when a girl takes this away from us.

The mistake in this thinking is the notion that the girl has the Power To take away your value. You have control over how you hold onto your value. It’s dictated by the way you act and react.

It’s only possible to be rejected when you’re You want to get the girl. If you’re focus is on being self amused then the control is in YOUR hands, it doesn’t matter what any girl says, it’s in your control to make yourself laugh.

I’ll touch on this in the execution section, but it applies here too. My game style is indirect but full of intention. This means that I don’t verbally say that I like the girl, but instead I convey it with my sub-communications. Usually, I speak random rubbish that makes you laugh.

So I went up to a girl to say “Hi!” “What do you like more, penguins or grapes?” It would be odd for her not to respond “Sorry, I have a boyfriend” because I’m not even trying to pick her up. I’m just having fun. Maybe she tells me to go away, so then I’ll use a statement of empathy and then say something else; “Sorry, I don’t want to interrupt you. What about if it’s a fairy penguin?”

All the girl can do is tell me to go away, but she hasn’t rejected me because I wasn’t Asking for anything is a good idea. I was simply having fun. When she tells me to go away it’s actually even funnier because what I said was so silly! Remember the 4x rule. Be persistent. Stop after 4 re-approaches)

Execution

“The definition of stupidity is not taking action on the things you know”

Any girl can be yours. You just have to put yourself into a situation where you’re around here for a long enough period of time and you MUST have good hygiene!

When starting out, understand where you’re coming from. Teachers often assume that everyone comes from the exact same place, such as their own. Shy guy who struggles to communicate with girls. It was the opposite of what I experienced. Overly They are too expressive and could overwhelm girls. Through my coaching I’ve learned to recognize these differences and mentor guys based on their personal traits. If your teaching this to yourself (a mentor will make the process 10x faster) then you need to be aware of where you’re at and your current sticking points.

3 critical steps in the invisible game method

1. Self-amusement

Be a little silly and make it fun for the girl. When she looks at you with eyes that are a little bit tense it means she can’t relate to what you’re saying. It is important to relieve the pressure by either expressing empathy or explaining why you did what you did (so that she understands). It is now Relatable).

2. Intent

Submit your intention to the girl-Communication (e.g. Communication (e.g., tonality, vocal projections, eye contact, physicality and speed of your talking, how comfortable are you in the environment. Intent means that you are confident in taking your wife home. It’s a manly frame. It’s important to not do it in a creepy manner at first.

3. Indirect

This means the words you use don’t convey any intent. A lot of what I say is not understandable. But  the girl knows that I’m a dominant man who could “get her” If I could. You don’t literally say to her “I’m going to make you mine,” Instead, you communicate it in the most effective way. Talk to her… The way you Take a look Visit her.

Understand How The Girl Feels…

Recognize that many girls are very shy. They feel that they’re not enough. My main goal is to relax the girl. “If you have to leave you can leave, it’s okay.” This relieves her of the pressure.

If a girl spends enough time around you and you don’t stuff it up. She will find you attractive if you are true to your worth!

A Night Like No Other

1. I’ll enter the club and start talking to girls.
   • Intense, self-absorbed and indirect. If you have fun, girls will naturally be attracted to you.
2. Make friends
   • After the girl is hooked, you can ask her to meet your friends.
   • Talk to your friends differently than you would to the girl. When talking to her friends you want to just be a boring normal guy “Hi nice to meet you. Where are you from What do you do for a living? etc.) This way you communicate you’re a confident guy, but won’t come across as a player.
3. Go meet other girls (repeat steps 1&2)
   • At this point I’ll tell her that I want to see her later, but I have to get back to my friends and make sure they’re having fun. (Grab her number).
4. Merge sets
   • Once you’ve met a few girls and maybe found one you like then you need to find something entertaining to do in the club. Girls won’t want to leave at 12:30AM. This means you need something to keep you preoccupied until it’s “go time.”
   • I like to walk with the girl and create sets with them. These are the things I make. “us VS them” frames to solidify my relationship with the girl and show her I’m comfortable talking to ANYONE.
5. Take a girl with you on your arm and leave
   • If you are leaving the venue with a girl, it is important that you take her with you. This is the most important step.
   • If you don’t already have one with you then text every girl you got a number from and say “hungry”She replies, even if it is not what she meant “no”(Call her and arrange to meet up)
6. Once you’re outside LEAD
   • Stop being the silly guy who doesn’t even know how to walk and become the leader. You must make decisions and push. Girls love to be led and the power dynamic changes when you leave the club. Girls need someone to make their decisions.

 

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